Most of us have clear ideas of who we want to fall in love with – this is especially true when you are young and idealistic. The younger, more naive versions of ourselves would want to have a lasting relationship with the person who can best meet our standards. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works.
While you would have wanted to choose someone who is sweet, caring, responsible, and family oriented, some of us fall prey in having relationships with somebody who’s the total opposite. And when that happens, you become miserable because the person you love does not meet your standards. This is the beginning of a toxic relationship.
What is a toxic relationship?
A toxic relationship is basically a kind of relationship where you end up at the losing end, regardless of how much effort you put in the relationship or how serious you are about making the relationship work. When a relationship is toxic, it does not serve your purpose, It does not make you happy. It makes you question your worth, It makes you feel vulnerable. A toxic relationship could easily wreak havoc on your perceptions about your self-worth because you would always think that the problem is with you, even if such is not the case.
Leaving a toxic relationship
Getting out of a toxic relationship is not easy, but it is not impossible. The first step is to acknowledge what kind of relationship you have and that you have to do something about it. The initial phase could be very difficult, especially if you have become quite attached to the other person. But at a certain point, you will realize that leaving that person and moving forward is vial in the pursuit of finding yourself again and settling for what you truly deserve.
As soon as you find the strength to face reality, the next thing to do is to realize your worth. More often than not, we know our value but we do not fully appreciate ourselves. This is why we are so willing to settle for someone who does not deserve u. But if you know your worth, you will realize that you cannot stay in a toxic relationship.
Some people could easily let go of a toxic relationship as soon a they realize that the relationship is not good for them. However, there are some of those who may decide to let go, but would go back to the toxic relationship again after some time. These are the people who experience some form o0f relapse, usually because they are lonely and they are too attached to the person they have been with for a long time. We do not judge these people because leaving the person you love is not an easy task. You would always find excuses for them. You would always believe that they have changed. You would always opt for a slow pace when leaving the relationship in the hopes that they could still catch up.
Is there hope?
Some toxic relationships can still be saved, provided that the person who is causing the problems has begun to realize his or her mistakes and is willing to do something about it. But this is a very long shot, so don’t hold on to false hopes. If you find yourself in a toxic relationship, the best thing to do is to leave and to choose your self-preservation over a shallow relationship with someone who doesn’t love you the same way that you love them.
Here are 7 Early Signs You Are In a Toxic Relationship.